These words are almost as important as my mantra: ‘One day at a time’.  Life is a process, a journey and through the work and play of it, these words remind me to remember my individual strength of character in order to be dependable for others while allowing others to support me when necessary.  It is not the weakness of codependence, but the strength of interdependence that I strive for daily.  I am constantly learning and refreshing myself on how to sort these two similar, yet entirely different modes of interaction.

co·de·pen·den·ce

/co.di.pen´.dens/

excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner; psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as an addiction to alcohol or heroin); broadly : dependence on the needs of or control by another

in·ter·de·pend·ence

/ˌɪntərdɪˈpɛndəns/

the quality or condition of being interdependent (mutually dependent;  depending on each other.),  or mutually reliant on each other – depending:

verb (used without object)

1. to rely; place trust (usually followed by on  or upon ): You may depend on the accuracy of the report.
2. to rely for support, maintenance, help, etc. (usually followed by on  or upon ): Children depend on their parents.
3. to be conditioned or contingent (usually followed by on  or upon ): His success here depends upon effort and ability.
4. to be undetermined or pending: I may go to Europe or I may not, it all depends.

Congrats to Molly on South Titus Street!

There is a necessary responsibility, nurturing, a respect in a family, that for some can create an impossible link between self-respect and worthiness based solely upon the actions we do for others. Thus causing individuals to feel they ARE what they do, instead of simply BEING who we are and DOING what we do. In BEING we are made strong and worthy to DO what we wish and feel we should. There is a simple freedom in this honor of the soul.

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